Just say no....

I've talked to a lot of women recently about the problem many of us have when it comes to saying the word "No." As little girls we were taught to be helpful and told not to be "selfish." Sometimes I think we are genetically wired to nuture everyone around us without regard to our own needs.

This I am sure is also a problem for my male BFL buddies too. Growing up they were told that big boys don't cry. They have the wiring of those Cavemen who didn't have the option not to go out and slay the sabertooth tiger and bring back a dyno t-bone for the family.

Just imagine where we'd all be had we not been wired that way? The little caveman babies wouldn't have survived and hence...I probably wouldn't be here today typing away of this computer.

Being "selfless" is a good thing. It promotes the human race and at times it can make you feel good.
But it can also make you feel bad.
Denying yourself of the care you so easily give to others can be draining. It can also be downright dangerous. Dangerous to your physical, mental and emotional health.

Body For Life teaches us how to begin focusing on ourselves without guilt. Proper exercise, nutrition and supplimentation takes time...time spent on ourselves. And giving ourselves the attention we need to thrive feels good! What a concept!!
Feeling good about ourselves also empowers us to give freely without anger to those around us.

So rather than thinking in terms of being selfless or selfish I'd like to throw out a brand new word for you to consider today. SELFLISHNESS. Its a combination of both words. It's up to us to determine how that word can fit into our new lives powered by the BFL Lifestyle.